Busy-ness – 6/16/17


My new word: Busy-ness, means a lot more than meets the eye. I spelled it like that so you would understand my inherent meaning. Filling your life with the same old: wake up, groan (since another day is here too quickly,) shower, rinse, repeat, eat breakfast (or skip it altogether,) yell at kids for not moving, work, work, work (at home or away,) lunch, work, dinner, haul kids to lessons or sports, chores, sleep. (Times that by three for mothers of toddlers!) Going through the motions, without a backward glance. Busy. ness. Without stopping to smell the roses, and whether they are roses or ranunculus (the only other R flower name I could find, I was trying to alliterate.) 

But anywho, I have learned, coming from one who is qualified to testify, slow down. Lift up your eyes from the grindstone, and look around. We tend to work so hard, we miss the really important stuff, because it’s not on the to-do list. (I used to be a member of the club!)

Make this day one of meaning. Marvel at that stunning sunset. Enjoy a green flourishing mountainside. Actually watch and enjoy your kid’s newest trick or listen to their never-ending story. Study that immaculate flower in your yard. Stop and truly savor that luscious chocolate bar. (Chocolate should be savored!) Appreciate the little things God has blessed you with. Count your blessings. (That’s all I have to say about that!)

Boating – 6/15/17

Nothing says summer, like a day on the lake. Sitting back on a reclining chair, refreshing drink in hand, the sun’s blistering rays beating down on you, the kids recklessly splashing in the water, and the sound of the recreating boat in the background. I named the family boat “Holy Mackerel” since my husband says that quite often. (Glad I googled mackerel, not how I would’ve spelled it!) My work vacation days were chewed up a few hours at a time, as I would escape from work a few hours early to hit the lake. I didn’t enjoy driving the boat (too much stress,) but I made great ballast at the front of the boat. Since little kids weren’t that heavy. I’ve seen many fun-filled rounds with someone behind the boat on assorted apparatus. My times behind the boat were few and far between. (I enjoyed spectating more.) Usually, it was at the insistence of one of my children. (They just wanted to see mom get wet!) 

We all had our time on the boat, but I usually ended up on the beach watching kids play in the water while the big kids went to play. I preferred it that way. I worked on my tan and carried on a nice conversation with my sister or a child. There was always a spectacular view in front of me. An occasional, “look mom!” would interrupt us, but we didn’t mind. (Kids are crazy!) I always made sure there was food available for famished fun-seekers. The nacho cups, I would purchase in bulk, made great plate-like bowls for a snack or a sandwich. Water toys, towels, t-shirts, and sunscreen lived in my trunk all summer for everyone’s unexpected (expected) needs. Life was good. It will be good again. We will go out again on a regular basis. We are going to employ an assistive needs company to show my guys how to get me in the boat. I’ll wear a life jacket. It will be like it was, someday. We have just been interrupted by this bump in the road of life. “Good things are worth fighting for!”‘ Boating is a good family activity. It builds comaraderie.

One Step At a Time – 6/14/17

​Hoopla erupted in the gym the other day! I was starting to lift my right foot off the ground, but the carpet was stopping it from going any farther. So they duct taped my toe to stop the resistance. (New fashion trend!) Darin was there and we did a bunch of standing, and I took a drink as I stood there. Then we walked. The first step I took, the therapist shouted. I got the weight off my foot and kicked it forward. For every step there was a shout. After a while everyone in gym was cheering! (Kind of embarrassing!) I think it was a mixture of my hip and knee. Darin took Collin’s phone, and started recording. When it was time to go back to my wheelchair I said, “No!” I’m not done yet! We walked about 10 more feet, then my time was up. It felt so good to be mobile again! (Even though I had help!)

Never Gonna Let You Down – 6/13/17

“Never Gonna Let You Down” is an up beat song by Colbie Calliat that just makes you feel incredible! I love her, and her songs are so inspiring. It’s message is of loyalty, love and hope. (Just what I need to hear!) This song makes me reminiscent of so many people in my life. It amazing and humbling that so many of my friends and family really stepped up and supported us through love and by deed when times were (are) hard. 

This song also holds inherent meaning to me. Two years ago, my four daughters and I performed this song at the Lewiston Fourth of July festivities in the park. I will always cherish our time practicing and performing. It is a fabulous memory I will hold onto forever. Isn’t music great for recalling memories? (You bet your sweet checks!)

The Terminal – 6/12/17


I watched this movie, The Terminal, again a few days ago, and it led me to think. The sheer will and determination of Victor is admirable, as he is stuck in a New York airport due to a civil war in his country. He does the right thing by remaining in the airport confines, even though stubborn officials endeavor to make him leave and break the rules. Victor makes the most of his situation while continuing to be a good person. (That’s a great quality!) I admire his way of patiently waiting, and his long suffering is amazing. I hope I can be as inventive and possess the willingness to wait for things to change for the better. (It’s going to be a long wait!) Good flick, highly recommend!

Easier Wrong or Harder Right? – 6/10/17

Success in this thing we call life hinges on our decisions. Make a wrong choice, and you’re going to suffer the sting of the negative consequence. We’ve all experienced that, and we’re smarter for it! (Sad to say!) A right choice will bear a happy positive result even though that right choice was probably a lot more difficult to do. Thus easier is wrong- harder is right. It’s about choosing to live with integrity.

In Lewis Carrol’s ‘Alice in Wonderland,’ Alice is faced with a crossroad where she must determine which way to proceed. She consults the Cheshire Cat to help her decide. The cat answers, “That depends where you want to go. If you do not know where you want to go, it doesn’t matter which path you take.” That is so true. If you possess no direction in your life, it does not really matter what your decision will be. We must select our personal North Star in which to sail toward. I think that is the key problem with our society. Most children aren’t given the right centering in their lives. Then when those choices present themselves (and they will) they are not correctly equipped to make that choice correctly. Then the resulting consequence is that they end up on an incorrect path, and they are blights to society, gain bad habits, and hurt those around them.

Even if right decisions might be formidable, we need to strive to make them. Our lives will reflect on our choices and consequences. (Choose wisely)  Make that choice before it happens, and it will be easier when the situation presents itself. To make that choice early, we must constitute ourselves on a substantial, stable foundation.

My stability is Christ. My foundation is His teachings of truth and love. President Monson also said, “May we choose to build up within ourselves a great and powerful faith which will be our most effective defense against the designs of the adversary—a real faith, the kind of faith which will sustain us and will bolster our desire to choose the right. Without such faith, we go nowhere. With it, we can accomplish our goals.” President Monson is a knowledgeable and trusted leader of ever-flourishing LDS church. Right now his advanced age is preventing him from being a visual part of the church, but I am sure he still plays an integral part. Everything he says is amazing. He propels me to be a better person. (I need that badly.)

Kelly Perdew is a keen and powerful businessman who won Apprentice, Season 2. After that he worked with the Trump organization. He went to law school and the US Military Academy at West Point excelling in military leadership. He wrote a book “Take Charge” which extols the importance of integrity in leadership. I am sure he is a heavy hitter in the business and political circles. Now, more than ever, we need upright, honest people in our top government and commerce arenas. It is vital that they listen to his voice of reason. (To put it lightly!)

Many important people understand the importance of making the right decisions in your life. Even though it may be difficult, “Choose the right way and be happy!”


Peace – 6/9/17

We all wish for peace in our lives. No worries, no cares, just a mind settled and content. Free of cares and fears, a snippet of heaven is what we yearn for.

Now back to reality… Its impossible to be completely carefree. (Like that innocent child.) We will continually have worries in the back of our minds. But there is a solution to escape the troubles of life. Your very own sanctuary awaits you.

I have found my sanctuary outside in little courtyard next to a trickling fountain surrounded by flowers. I retreat there everyday. I catch some rays or relax in the shade of a tree, breath in the fresh air and endeavor to escape. It is massively therapeutic! Sometimes I even drift into sleepland (once in the sun! Ouch!) I think a lot! I try incredibly hard to only think of the affirmative things and meditate positively. (I can worry later!) It can be very spiritual. I often pray.

“Let not your heart be troubled. Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you. Not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, nor let it be afraid. If ye love me, ye would rejoice.” John 14 (taken from throughout.) That’s my favorite passage.

Where is your peaceful sanctuary? Is it on your favorite chair curled up with a good book, in a bubbly warm bathtub, locked in your secluded closet, running on a country road, or snuggled in your bed? (No kids allowed!) If you don’t have a certain place to meditate and find peace, discover yours. It will be your calm in the storm of the day. Make a point to escape, to find respite and peace, and make sure to fill it with positive thoughts only. Don’t we all deserve that? Where do you find peace? (I’d like to know.)