Compassion

What do you think of when you hear the word “compassion?” (I used to think, oh, poor homeless people, or oh, that sad unfortunate person, I feel ya.) There’s fake compassion exhibited in word or verbosity to only make yourself look highfaluting and pretentious, or there’s true compassion portrayed in deed, when you genuinely serve in reaction to how you feel for the other or heartfelt empathy. The stroke (I had) has really taught me and my family true compassion. 

Our daughter has recently taken compassion to a new level. (If you know my daughters, I’ll bet you can guess which one!) She told me very matter-of-factly what happened in her class the other day.  She described how a handicapped kid in a wheelchair entered as a new student. The teacher proceeded with the awkward introductions to the class and asked who he could sit by. There were no offers. (Cricket sounds.) My daughter, one of the more popular girls, was sitting on the isle with an empty seat to her other side. Since she’s quite a caring thinker, she quickly moved over while offering the space and her friendship. She speedily became his friend while showing understanding and kindness. She told me, “I knew what he was going through, because of you and what we’ve been through. Before, I wouldn’t of thought to help him. I would’ve just continued on, not thinking about it.” (Proud momma moment.) She also told me he was a really good artist. (Which showed she was looking for the good.)

Our knowledge of where each location and amount of handicap parking places has become quite extensive. I have to laugh when my children (and husband) complain about use of the spots that are taken unnecessarily. But, I must remind them, some handicaps aren’t as outright noticeable as mine. (Whoa, get out of the way when they see a car parked in a handicap stall with no sticker! Oh, the anger!) 

When people go far out of their way to help me through a door or successfully navigate a small space, I appreciate them and their parents. (They were taught well.)

Now, I didn’t write this to brag, (well maybe, a little) but to show that even though I have endured a great hardship – positive things have resulted

Maybe, it was required in the big scheme of things that this happen to teach me and all who know my story – compassion, patience and faith. 

The ultimate way I have learned compassion is through the many earth angels who have shown their genuine feelings through their self-less acts of love. I have learned patience not only by my endless tests of (literal) long-suffering, but by the patience I have witnessed in others as they have helped me with daily tasks. And lastly, my faith has been strengthened by witnessing the faith and prayers by others on my behalf. (A huge thank-you to all that fit in those categories!)

The Terminal – 6/12/17


I watched this movie, The Terminal, again a few days ago, and it led me to think. The sheer will and determination of Victor is admirable, as he is stuck in a New York airport due to a civil war in his country. He does the right thing by remaining in the airport confines, even though stubborn officials endeavor to make him leave and break the rules. Victor makes the most of his situation while continuing to be a good person. (That’s a great quality!) I admire his way of patiently waiting, and his long suffering is amazing. I hope I can be as inventive and possess the willingness to wait for things to change for the better. (It’s going to be a long wait!) Good flick, highly recommend!

Love is Patient

Love Challenge – Love is patient. 

I have seriously learned patience during the long, slow recuperation from this stroke (except with wheelchair, I like to go fast. Get out of my way!) Everything takes time and it is not a speedy thing. There have been times I’ve had to wait and wait on my help and myself. (Try eating with your non-dominant hand!) My recovery is going to take time. Patience seems like a trait only the saints have. But patience can be acquired by anyone. It only takes understanding. You must understand the other person and what they are experiencing. Patience is not thinking of yourself. How you act and what you do while you’re waiting defines you. Do you huff and puff and growl under your breath while you wait? Or do you just do something else to kill time (multi-task) and show some simple understanding? (That’s what smart phones are for!) I know there may be times that your schedule is crunched, and your patience is pushed to the limit. This is the time you need to re-evaluate your habits, or perhaps wake up earlier. There are emergencies that are unforeseeable (last-minute projects or reset alarm clocks,) but usually those times that increase your blood pressure can be avoided with a little planning and preparation. Patience can additionally be shown to those in need through love with long suffering. Lending a helping hand is not usually a quick notion. Those who give me love and service are so incredibly patient. I appreciate it so much! 

Lucky Blessing #23 – Patience

Lucky Blessing Challenge #23- Lucky Blessings come from Patience. 

I gotta say having a stroke makes me the foremost authority on the subject. In the past, I had the control freak, get-ur-done personality. I made things happen. (With six kids and a farmer husband you kind of had to.) The time I spent “locked in” (not being able to move or speak, but you are totally aware,) waiting for help (many times a day,) having the trach (that experience is the epitome of patience,) and no voice (try getting your point across, 24/7 Charades) have all taught me that patience must be had to survive. I could be impatient and drive myself crazy, or just find a way to deal with the situation. I know now that patience just takes understanding and a little bit of maturity. You will get what you want eventually. (Patience is a virtue that you get over time!) God’s timetable is way different than yours. We might pray and pray for something, and the answer might be no. But someday our prayers will be answered, maybe not exactly how we want it – but they will be for our best. If there is something you want (like yesterday!) take it from me, the way you act while waiting shows what kind of person you are. A true blessing is having patience. Patience is achieved through time and love. We can do it!